As someone who doesn’t look my age (54) or has been told I’m aging backwards I’m floored by some of the responses I get as if I am a relic. As a man, being “mature” has its perks but back when I was in my comeuppance when you hit 25 you were grown-grown and sometimes have a quarter life crisis (I did). Then 30 was a celebration and honestly no one cared again until you were 45 which was considered being “over the hill” and you had a mid-life crisis (I did not). 65 was retirement. 75 was silver and anything goes after that. Admittedly, when I was 25 and met Big Mike from And1 at New York Sports Club in Queens where he worked as a trainer and he told us he was 40 we thought he was lying. No way he could be that old and look maybe 30. But it was mostly admiration. And to be honest the guys who did meet older women (I dated a 30 yo when I was 25) they were held with high regard and left those situations better than worse, no matter what. But my daughter talks about me like I’m a dinosaur and I’m more active than she is. Strange times we’re in. I know it isn’t the same for women but I do see you and appreciate this post. Especially seeing how hard my youngest is on herself - which runs counter to how she actually looks.
Thanks for reading and sharing your response, Eric! I chuckled at you saying your daughter considers you a dinosaur, even with your activity level lol. But that’s so real. My older sister (~ 10 years+) is fit and more active than most of my friends in their late 20s and 30s—some young folks can be humbled by older folks that have matured enough to know you have to “preserve your sexy”. None of us can escape aging, if I had a choice/influence, I’d love to be in aging backwards gang!
My mouth dropped when you CHECKED that man. Brilliant, beautiful 10/10 no notes.
Also our relationship to beauty is a complex, ever changing one as women. What I loved is your strong internal understanding that you are beautiful, even if you’re not checking off a bunch of arbitrary random standards.
I am still working on embodying the fact that I am not whatever society wants to make me to be. And that I am who I understand myself to be.
Maintaining that inner sense of confidence vs. relying on external validation is key.
Thank ya, thank ya. He earned that one without a doubt!
But yeah man, it just really begins at home. You are who you understand yourself to be but also you are who you think you are. Some call it delusion, I call it "nobody outside of my can truly define who I am" in any way.
I didn't even realize that she was doing sign language in the video! But everything you said in this is so true. I think it's so weird that as women we have SOOOO much pressure and men just think they shit don't stink. Also I'm so pro telling a man he got you so fucked up so I'm glad you told Lil Bill off.
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As someone who doesn’t look my age (54) or has been told I’m aging backwards I’m floored by some of the responses I get as if I am a relic. As a man, being “mature” has its perks but back when I was in my comeuppance when you hit 25 you were grown-grown and sometimes have a quarter life crisis (I did). Then 30 was a celebration and honestly no one cared again until you were 45 which was considered being “over the hill” and you had a mid-life crisis (I did not). 65 was retirement. 75 was silver and anything goes after that. Admittedly, when I was 25 and met Big Mike from And1 at New York Sports Club in Queens where he worked as a trainer and he told us he was 40 we thought he was lying. No way he could be that old and look maybe 30. But it was mostly admiration. And to be honest the guys who did meet older women (I dated a 30 yo when I was 25) they were held with high regard and left those situations better than worse, no matter what. But my daughter talks about me like I’m a dinosaur and I’m more active than she is. Strange times we’re in. I know it isn’t the same for women but I do see you and appreciate this post. Especially seeing how hard my youngest is on herself - which runs counter to how she actually looks.
Thanks for reading and sharing your response, Eric! I chuckled at you saying your daughter considers you a dinosaur, even with your activity level lol. But that’s so real. My older sister (~ 10 years+) is fit and more active than most of my friends in their late 20s and 30s—some young folks can be humbled by older folks that have matured enough to know you have to “preserve your sexy”. None of us can escape aging, if I had a choice/influence, I’d love to be in aging backwards gang!
My mouth dropped when you CHECKED that man. Brilliant, beautiful 10/10 no notes.
Also our relationship to beauty is a complex, ever changing one as women. What I loved is your strong internal understanding that you are beautiful, even if you’re not checking off a bunch of arbitrary random standards.
I am still working on embodying the fact that I am not whatever society wants to make me to be. And that I am who I understand myself to be.
Maintaining that inner sense of confidence vs. relying on external validation is key.
Thank ya, thank ya. He earned that one without a doubt!
But yeah man, it just really begins at home. You are who you understand yourself to be but also you are who you think you are. Some call it delusion, I call it "nobody outside of my can truly define who I am" in any way.
I didn't even realize that she was doing sign language in the video! But everything you said in this is so true. I think it's so weird that as women we have SOOOO much pressure and men just think they shit don't stink. Also I'm so pro telling a man he got you so fucked up so I'm glad you told Lil Bill off.